About Death Doulas

NOTES: Sometimes written as death doula. Sometimes end of life concierge service. Sometimes specialist. But what the heck does all of that mean anyways? The most important thing is what we do and how we help. Here are ways my services can help you. (suggested type of intro. play into idea that there are many words and ways to call it and you can call this whatever you like but the work and love remains the same)

The Elephant

The Quality of MY Presence opens up the Conversation  - Gets rid of the elephant in the room.

Ask the real questions 

Get out of your own way and listen to what the Dying person is Saying. Really Listen - don’t deny to what the Dying person has to say - Be silent - this will open it up  - Really Listen

End of Life Plans

Help create positive, empowering end of life plans;

Consider and plan beautifully for the Unconscious time : How can we help set things up ahead of time, so that each person can feel most safe, comfortable, and respected?

assist with advanced care planning; will look at what do you have in place? Do you have your legal documentation completed? If not, is that something you’re interested in completing? Do you know your options? 

How do we help you envision a more personalized, a more meaningful journey for yourself? And how can your natural network and your care team be more aware of what you’re hoping for, what your preferences are and what any of your fears or anxieties might be?

Support

Provide spiritual care, psychological and social support;

Suggest ideas for optimal physical comfort.

The fundamental precept of family-led after death care is love, thus the reality of this experience for you and your family can easily be tailored to suit your individual faith.

Plan Home Vigils

(describe what this could look like. People get overwhelmed at the idea of home funerals and vigils and 100% do not know the difference between any of the terms. Use this space to highlight how you simply understanding that helps! and what a home vigil could look like.

Educate

• Educate the dying/the patient and families on the new and progressive options of living funerals. home wakes, natural or “green” burials, and a growing number of cremation options (flame, alkaline hydrolosis).

• Help negotiate the practical burdens, emotional burdens, financial burdens. All need addressing.

Comfort

Suggest ideas for optimal physical comfort-